How to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Stay Motivated in 2021

We are already two weeks in!

And the warp speed  doesn't seem to be changing anytime soon. But, does that mean we have to fall off our path?

Nope!  In today's Podcast I talk about 3 Ways to Keep  Staying on track for your New Year!

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 Bettina M Brown: Hello, hello and welcome to In The Rising Podcast. My name is Bettina Brown, and this is the platform I have chosen to talk to you about living a life that's really in alignment with your dreams, your hopes, your goals, your aspirations, and really the life you want to have That magazine. Cover life of your life that you aspire to have, and that's really what you really want on that Monday morning and what you really want when the weekend is over and what you honestly really want day to day.

And leaving behind that shame blame game that really does nothing for you. It doesn't serve you, it doesn't rise you up. It just makes you feel like you're going in that same circle over and over again. I love to talk about. Living yourself worth living in your self-esteem, living a great life. But I want to emphasize also that I am not a counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or anything of that nature.

I am certainly a healthcare professional who really loves to. You know, figure out what makes us tick. And as a physical therapist, I'm supposed to look for the source of a problem and not chase the pain around. So I like to delve in a little bit deeper and figure out what is going on. So I wanted to talk about today three ways that we know our self, self-love process, if you will, is on track for 2021.

It's a brand new year. It's a brand new opportunity, and every day is actually a brand new opportunity, but in our minds, we really do it by year. And we are halfway through January already, and I wanted to just talk about that, like are we on track halfway through January with the goals for the rest of our month?

So the three things I wanted to talk about today, start with number one. Doing a life audit. Now that sounds really fun, doesn't it? You know, an audit, nothing about audit comes to mind with great things, only taxes and more taxes. But what is important about taking a moment to just look at your life and evaluate it, just, just check it out, is seeing whether or not you are on track for yourself.

Not only this year, but in general. And what I mean by that as an example is what about if you pick up a project? It could be a home project, it could be a work project, and you are all the way thrown into it, but six months, you know, later, a year later, two years later, you're out of that and you realize that.

You're not very close to some friends of yours that your relationship with your children is not quite as, you know, close as it used to be. You don't even know what's going on in the lives of those people that you say is really, you know, the closest people to you. Is it because you've been so involved in something that you're not really interested in the things you want to be interested in?

Have you gained a great deal of weight because you know you're so busy and X, Y, Z, and let's face it, sometimes we're so busy in A through Z that we haven't had a chance to eat correctly and we're gaining all this weight. Or what about have we lost weight? We haven't even had the time to stop and actually eat.

At all. Are we really physically presenting the way that we want to be, you know, emotionally and financially? So taking that time to just do a life audit. Just, just think, simmer on things, you know, is my relationship the way I want it to be? Is my financial situation the way I want it to be? Or was I preoccupied, you know, I bought all this stuff that really was not important.

Then I knew it wasn't important then, but I just went through the motions of shopping. Just stop for a moment and if you think. Two weeks into this year that you are on track with what your general goals were, your general hopes, the point of waking up on a Monday morning if you're on track. That's awesome.

Continue on. If you're starting to notice a few of those old habits coming right back in, it's a great time to realize it. You know, there's nothing wrong with having some deviations, right? I've mentioned that in many podcasts. Sometimes those deviations are really the, the true path we should be on, but it should never be a deviation from what's important.

It should never be a deviation from your integrity and your confidence. The second thing I wanted to talk about to see whether or not our self-love and self-awareness is really on track in this brand new year, is to just do a brain dump. Now, what is that? I had to actually look this up and read a little bit more about it when I read it, but I, I like the idea.

So when we are doing brainstorming ideas that can be at work, at home with whatever project, we write everything down, right? We have to write an essay or a thesis. We write all our thoughts down. Just just write it down, write it down, write it down. And once it's down and we organize it. But another way of calling it a brainstorm is really a brain dump.

Sometimes we get so focused. On all the things that we have to do and our plans and our organ, you know what? We have to do this and, and after A and B, then I can do c. Well, what about if I do d before a, a lot of this kind of in your head, in your head space that we get. Out of our life. There's so much in our head.

We're not even having a life. And I've done a little research on Google and you know, statistics being, the way statistics are, there are about 50,000 to 70,000 or even up to 80,000 thoughts in our mind every single day. That's a lot. And so I wonder, What some of my own thoughts are like, what, what am I really thinking about?

So many, you know, so many times and there's a, a high likelihood that we're thinking repetitive thoughts and perseverating, and at that point you really are not having 50 or 70 or 80 thoughts. You're really having more like 15, 20, 30. Those are my statistics, by the way, but it's just with repetition. We're thinking of the same thing over and over again.

Now. Are those thoughts moving the needle up? Are those thoughts moving in the direction that actually leads us and moves us forward in life, or is that a needle, like on the speedometer? Really just kind of going back down to zero. That our self-love is going down, our self-worth, our self-esteem. We're not really energized any of those.

Our emotional state is going from, you know, positive to down. It's going from, you know what? I can do this to, I hope I can do this. It's taking the, the belief out of every single day's actions. So doing this brain dump is, is different for different people. It's always suggested that you write it down because there is a link between writing things down and getting it out of your brain, out of your mind, because your brain, your mind is thinking about this over and over and over again because it doesn't wanna forget it.

And there's this caution. So that's why the brain will continue to focus on it. But once you've written it down, it's like the brain gets an opportunity to say, okay, I see you've gotten it. I don't have to think about it over and over and over again. I can actually take a moment and let you think about something else.

Write it all down and you would be surprised what is actually in your own brain that's going around and around. You'd be surprised what you think about because as you're writing it down, your brain is almost like super excited. Like a little kid standing at the cookie counter, like, oh, oh, I have another one.

Can I have another one? I have I, let me put something else down. And this brain dump is so effective. There's a lot of research towards it, and that once you have it down, you can really look at it. There are some ideas or some thoughts that when we look at ourselves, we look and judge ourselves with our intentions.

You know, I understand. I hurt your feelings, but it wasn't my intention. And when we look at other people, we judge them through their actions. I. Not their intentions. So if someone isn't calling you because they're busy, someone isn't, um, writing you someone was late for a meeting, someone just keeps stopping the lunch date because they have other things come up.

You are judging their actions. Now, their intentions may be very good towards you, but that's not what we judge. But the same way we are just judging ourselves on our intentions. Those closest around us and those that are coworkers and you know, even those acquaintances, they're judging us on our actions.

So when we do this brain dump, we can really see are we, are we honoring ourselves? Which is really number one to honor. Are we following in alignment with that? Another way that you can do this is an audio. You know, so many phones just have this little recording bit and just put it down on your drive to work.

There's nothing wrong with hitting a button and just, you know, blah. Just put it all out there and listen to it back. Not only is that shocking because we realize what we really sound like, but you can hear your own emotions. I think that is something that lacks when we write it down, you don't hear. Your own emotion behind it.

And a lot of therapists will record things and have someone listen back to it just so that they can kind of hear it from an outside perspective. Because you can be, and that's the amazing thing about the human person, the human experience is you can be both the inside perspective and the outside. And the last thing I wanted to talk about was organize.

Organize, organize, organize, organize the little things you know, is your ketchup container in the right place? Um, are you, do you really need 10 different knives from 10 different sets, like, or is it time to get rid of something? Do you have little tape dispensers in four different drawers and you never really know where any of them are?

That might not be your story. That might be mine. But organize, clean it out. Organize the big things. You know, go through your closet, go through your day, organize some things out. Are you spending time moving that needle forward? Are you spending night time just kind of in neutral, just idling along? And are you idling day after day after day?

Well, it's really easy to do that when we're just have so much stuff and we don't have a plan. But when we organize things out, we have a chance to look at something and evaluate it. Keep, don't keep, organize another day. You know, I do believe there is a container like that. I think there should be one. So where are we on that?

Organizing things out, getting rid of things, cleaning it up, seeing what's there.

A lot of what this does is put you back in control because in that moment when you are organizing things out, the person who's making the decision, what stays, what goes, and what's gonna be organized the next time around is you. And often we feel out of control. So when I feel out of control, I don't have the highest self-esteem I like to feel.

That I have some semblance of, of control over my own life, even though my own life is really affected by so many others. But control can start with you. Organize what's important, organize your dinner date, organize that time to hang out with your children, organize your time to exercise. And when you do this, you'll stop comparing.

You'll stop judging. You'll stop wishing. You're gonna get so much more on track with what you really want in life. And isn't that the point of living, being in your purpose? Well, it's definitely the point of this podcast. And so those are things that I recommend for this day. Are you on track with your own personal goals in 2021?

Doing that life audit, checking where your stance is doing a brain dump. If it's in your mind, get it out. Check it out, throw it out. What doesn't help you and organize? I keep reading, organize the little things. I think the big things should be organized as well, and you're gonna notice that things just feel open.

And in an open space you see possibility. We tend to think about opportunity and, and, and a door opening into something. Well, if that door is walking into, you know, a tiny closet filled with junk, it's not an opportunity. It's just a, it's a lot of work. You want an a door and we visualize walking through something and smelling the fresh air and feeling, you know, grass underneath our feet.

Or like at a beach and just feel that sand here. What sounds do you hear walking to that? What are your sounds that you want to hear? Is it the coffee machine brewing first thing in the morning and the birds out and about? And you can almost hear nature waking up and you're not worried about all the car sounds because that's often the distance, but where you are in your place of.

Hope and desire and inspiration. You can just taste the opportunities. Well, thank you again for listening to my podcast. I greatly appreciate it. Leave a review. It always helps with the placement of the podcast. I wish you all a wonderful day and until next Tuesday, let's keep building one another up.